Genders are not observed that much.
There are a few things that gay wedding photographers tend to do a little differently compared to the traditional wedding photographers out there in the market. The first thing that sets gay wedding photographers apart from the others is the fact that gender roles are not observed all that much. If you are quite used or set in your ways in terms of gender roles, then you are up for a big surprise and a big overhaul. In order for you to become effective as a wedding photographer, you need to completely unlearn everything that you know and relearn how things are to be handled during gay wedding shoots. The usual wedding setup will have a bride and a groom but this is not necessarily how things work out for gay weddings. Most of the couples out there actually prefer a genderless union and they like labeling themselves as such while there are a few that have the usual masculine-feminine dynamic going on. Whatever it might turn out to be, the best way for you to prep yourself up for it would be for you to just go straight to the clients and ask them about it. This may seem like an uncomfortable conversation topic but it is still nonetheless required.
The topic of family is something that gay wedding photographers tend to tread carefully on. You need to remind yourself time and time again of the fact that most of these couples have spent most of their lives being judged and hiding what their true feelings are. It took a lot of time and a lot of courage for them to come out in the open up to the point wherein they are willing to make a union and tie the knot with each other. And even when they actually get to accept things as they are, it doesn’t necessary mean that their families will get to do the same as well. You need to know ahead of time what kind of setup they have so that you will be able to determine how you will conduct things as the official wedding photographer during the wedding. Pay attention to the way that you approach this conversation because this is a sensitive issue and something that the clients might be a little wary to upon up to you about. Make them understand how important something like this will turn out to be all throughout the coverage.
Opening up can be a bit of an issue for most clients.
This is something you need to be a little bit more patient with. It took them a lot of thinking and a whole lot of courage to get to where they are right now. This is something that you should acknowledge and understand as much as you possibly can. If they don’t readily offer you any details about their relationship when you ask for it, have a little more patience. Don’t rush through things and don’t force them into anything while you are at it. Show them that you are sincere and open to the possibilities and things should follow through as you go along.
Take pride in the fact that at the end of the day, love is a universal language.
Focus on that as much as possible. Have respect for the people that you work for at all times and they will reciprocate it.